Friday, March 20, 2015

Going Through Open Doors

It's hard to deal with the event of a door that was once open for you in your life to suddenly close, but I do have the belief that some doors in our lives close for specific reasons. Sometimes the doors that we want to go through close in order for other doors to open, and it's those doors that we are eventually directed to go through. How do we know when a door is open in our lives? For some of us, all we need are brief hints that a door is beginning to open. For some of us, some doors just break open without warning and we are delighted because of this.

It's not just about going through an open door. It's more about how we go through that open door and if we are willing to.

Above: A joyful moment that one can embrace
Now what's going on in the picture above? It is a joyful moment that's being embraced by a person who is otherwise dealing with something that isn't very pleasant. This person is Ron Hunter, head coach of the Georgia State Panthers basketball team. Just the other day in the NCAA Men's Basketball Tournament the #14 Georgia State Panthers pulled off an amazing upset over the #3 Baylor Bears by a score of 57-56 in the 2nd Round. A game-winning 3-pointer was made by Ron's son, R.J. Hunter.

What does this picture mean to me? When I look at this picture, it tells me a few things. Even though he was dealing with a broken foot that was in pain, Ron Hunter celebrated a special moment where his son helped his team win the basketball game. This was overall a good moment and he embraced it. Georgia State making it to the NCAA Tournament was their open door, so to speak. What does one do when a door is opened for him or her? They just go through that open door.

It's not every day when something special happens in your life that really makes an impact, that makes you evaluate the good things that you do have going for you. There have been plenty of times in my life when I felt like the unpleasant things that were happening to me would just anchor me down and not let me celebrate the good things that come my way. I'm well acquainted with that feeling. However, when a good thing pops up in my life and it's something that I know will benefit me in the long run, I know enough not to shy away from it and neglect it.

Open doors will be made available

The point I want to make here is that no matter what kind of trouble you are experiencing in your life, as a person on the Autism Spectrum, there is always a way for you to step back and enjoy the good things that come to you. No matter where on the Autism Spectrum you are, if a door opens for you and you are well aware of it, just go through it. Who cares what your critics think? By going through that open door, you will be allowed to venture into things that could lead you to more open doors, more positive experiences that allow you to better yourself as a person.

Everything can be a learning experience if you let it. No matter what issues you have in life, whether it be a broken foot, a whooping cough, a lack of social skills or even cancer, if you can learn to just go through the pleasant open doors and take in the experiences that make your day a good day, then you will be better off for it. Appreciate the times you have with your family and friends. Appreciate the accomplishments you make. Appreciate all the times that you just smile and laugh, as long as it's in good humor.

I will leave my readers with this one last bit. It's part of Jim Valvano's speech at the ESPN 1993 ESPY Awards Show. This quote basically highlights what I just mentioned. Remember the open doors.

"To me, there are three things we all should do every day. We should do this every day of our lives. Number one is laugh. You should laugh every day. Number two is think. You should spend some time in thought. And number three is, you should have your emotions moved to tears, could be happiness or joy. But think about it. If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that's a full day. That's a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week, you're going to have something special. Cancer can take away all of my physical abilities. It cannot touch my mind, it cannot touch my heart, and it cannot touch my soul. And those three things are going to carry on forever. I thank you and God bless you all." -Jim Valvano (Jimmy V)

Saturday, March 14, 2015

Having Peace

I'm sure that all of us at some points in our lives just wanted to step back and obtain peace. I'm sure we have been looking for the kind of peace that shields us from the rest of society, space that we can call our own. I'm sure that autistic people feel the pressures of society almost every day and I know that the troubling events that autistic people experience are nothing short of stressful.

Why is it that when we try so hard to find peace and comfort we end up receiving the polar opposite of peace and comfort? Why is it that we often bump into people who desire to hurt us and rob us of that peace we seek? Is there more than to this than what we can actually see? I would have to believe so.

Autistic people are smart and gifted people but they are also shy and antisocial. Especially if they can't speak up for themselves, as is the case depending on where on the Autism Spectrum you are, it can be difficult to function in this world. In this day and age, you are living in a world that's corrupt and filled with rules and laws that have been implemented to hinder your success and stifle your creativity as a person. You are dealing with a world that wants to follow the status quo. You are dealing with a world that will try anything and everything to find fault with you just because of your condition on the Autism Spectrum. I have noticed this in many places and I'm sure that you will notice this in many places too.

Peace is such a valuable thing that you can't take for granted. Peace enables you to think more freely, to act on things that would otherwise be impossible to act on because of others, and to function at your own pace.

If you have some people in your life who are just there to "somewhat" help you but not really help you because they're your friends, then they probably shouldn't be in your life. If you know for a fact that these people are not sincere with their supposedly helpful actions, or if they are just going through the motions, then you need to learn how to break it off with those people. It's these kinds of people who will anchor you down and keep you under their thumb indefinitely, and before long they will reveal how they really feel about you.

Peace is a time of appreciating the quietness of life. On one hand you don't want to feel lonely, but on the other hand you do need to have time to unwind and separate yourself from everybody else. The problem that we as autistic people face is not being able to properly balance out these extremes. Whether or not we like it sometimes, we will have to go out into the world and communicate with others. That is a fact. How we deal with these communications is the challenge, and we need to be up for this challenge. It's really about balance if you think about it.

When I think about the word "peace" I think about my spiritual beliefs. I think about my faith in Jesus Christ and what He did for me. I think about the example that was made by Jesus through all of His teachings and actions in the Holy Bible. I think about every verse in the Holy Bible and what they all mean. Spiritual peace is the hardest type of peace for anyone to obtain and there are many reasons why.

A life filled with many troubles doesn't have peace. A life filled with fear doesn't have peace. A life filled with lies and hypocrisy doesn't have peace. A life that's only half-fulfilled doesn't have peace. People who don't repent of their sins won't have peace. People who go along with the crowd won't have peace.

Even today I still have my troubles and oppressions. I still have problems in my life that I need to figure out. All of us have our fair share of problems. Name someone who doesn't have any problems. There are times when I can easily get depressed and feel defeated because I feel like nothing is going right for me. I have been in this spot countless times. I know what it feels like. I could have easily let all of my pains and defeats get to me and keep me down forever, but they haven't. I wouldn't let that be the case. I know where my peace is and I believe that I have it. I always turn to my spiritual peace for comfort so I can readjust my thinking.

I suppose we all just need to step back and think more deeply about what peace really means to us in our lives.

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Shout Out To StephenVlog

A special thanks to StephenVlog for reading my mail!

For my first post in March 2015 for The Autistic Help, I would like to start off with something simple. I have been a fan of watching content created by Stephen Georg, who happens to be an avid gamer, a Let's Player and a vlog expert. With the help of his wife Mal, Stephen has been able to create some of the most memorable YouTube moments that I have ever witnessed as a viewer. StephenVlog and StephenPlays both help make my general YouTube experience a memorable and entertaining one. 
Of course I may have went a little overboard with how many pages I wrote for this StephenMail segment (December 2014), but as a freelance writer, I have a lot of things to say and I felt like putting down my thoughts as I introduced myself to Stephen and Mal.

If you are looking for interesting things to watch on sites like YouTube, don't be shy to check out both StephenVlog and StephenPlays. Both of these channels are engaging, fun, entertaining and most of all welcoming. You won't feel alienated by watching any of these videos. 

In one sense, this Stephen, Stephen Georg, shares a very similar dream to the one I have. This Steven, meaning myself, plans to expand his horizon as a freelance writer and get to a place where he can deliver consistent content for many people to read. Stephen Georg is a guy who expresses himself on camera on a daily basis and entertains masses of people by just being himself, doing typical everyday life things.

It is my hope that Stephen and Mal will read this blog one day and that they will consider collaborating with me in some way. I would be honored to contribute any sort of written materials for them because not only would that get my name out there a little bit, but I would also establish something with interesting people such as this married couple of gamers. I would like to become friends with them and hopefully expand on our separate individual ideas and possibly combine those ideas.

Being someone with Asperger's Syndrome, I feel that it's necessary to find my own escape from the troubles of reality, and most of the time that I spend on YouTube is dedicated to watching various forms of entertainment like Let's Plays, vlog videos, How To videos, pro wrestling videos, sports videos, etc. I believe I need that escape to cool myself down if I am having a rough day. It's my own "Calming Down Mechanism", so to speak. 

For those of you who were curious enough to check out The Autistic Help blog through the StephenMail video I posed above, I thank you for checking this blog out! More content will come soon!